In an honest effort to find spiritual peace, we avoid conflict and stay neutral. We do not get caught up or emotional with arguments in the office or atrocities on the news. We aim to be passersby. We look upon all of this as an illusion, meant to make us react to it, to make it real, so that we forget our true perfect Oneness with Source or God.
Sometimes, it is easy however to let that affect and constrict our behavior, and even our thoughts. We try not to cause conflict or upset in others. We want to extend that peace. And this easily becomes rigidity and a fear of offending others. We think that to be spiritual, we must guard our tongue and not be irreverent. We are afraid to say the wrong thing, to hurt or offend someone unintentionally.
However, this is just as much an error as it is to be upset or offended by the illusionary events or behaviors of others. If we worry about our actions or words offending others, then we are placing emphasis on where it does not belong. We are worried about the effect, the illusion. Where our focus should be is on our thoughts. And if our thoughts are revolving around fear of offending others, then our thoughts are those of judgment and condemnation. We suspect others of judging us for our actions and words, and in this belief, we are judging them and projecting our judgment on them.
Therefore, if you are worried about what others think about your actions or words, then stop. It means that the ego has taken over, and you are protecting your ego identity against criticism. Shift your focus. Forgive others because they cannot judge what you really are, which has nothing to do with your body. Forgive yourself, because your actions and words are not real, but your thoughts are. Free yourself, knowing that your peace and happiness has nothing to do with anyone but yourself. Then stop taking it all so seriously. Be irreverent. Do whatever makes you happy at that moment. It matters not what you do or what you say, but that it comes from a place of love and not fear.
